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IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR A WOMAN TO VISIT GRAVES?

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IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR A WOMAN TO VISIT GRAVES?' width='806' height='440' src='https://hikmetkapisi.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/mezartas-806x440.jpg'> </div> <h2 itemprop="name" class="post-title"> <span class="post-type"><i class="icon-picture"></i></span> IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR A WOMAN TO VISIT GRAVES? </h2> <div class="post-meta"> <span class="meta-author" itemprop="author" rel="author"><i class="icon-user"></i> <a href="https://hikmetkapisi.com/en/author/nizameddin29/" rel="author">Nizamuddin Demir</a> </span> <span class="meta-date" datetime="22 June 2025"><i class="fa fa-calendar"></i>June 22, 2025</span> <span class="meta-categories"><i class="icon-suitcase"></i><a href="https://hikmetkapisi.com/en/category/islami-arastirmalar/fikih/" rel="category tag">Canon law</a> , <a href="https://hikmetkapisi.com/en/category/genel/" rel="category tag">General</a></span> <span class="meta-comment"><i class="fa fa-comments"></i><a href="https://hikmetkapisi.com/en/kadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir/#respond" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">0 Comments</a></span> <span class="post-view"><i class="icon-eye-open"></i>9 views</span> </div> <div class="post-content" itemprop="mainContentOfPage"> <p>QUESTION: Can a woman whose husband has died visit his grave?<br /> ANSWER: Peace be upon you. Visiting graves is also permissible for women. There is no distinction between spouses or anyone else. (Nurettin Yıldız)</p> <p>In the early days of Islam, the Prophet (pbuh) had forbidden both men and women to visit graves. Because many idolaters depicted the images of their deceased ancestors and worshipped them. When Islam became stronger, the Prophet (pbuh) permitted visiting graves and said: “I had forbidden you from visiting graves. Now visit graves because they remind you of the Hereafter.” Therefore, visiting graves to take a lesson and pray for the dead is, by all accounts, permissible for men. However, there is a dispute about it for women. According to some scholars, it is not permissible. Because the Prophet (pbuh) said: Allah has cursed women who visit graves. According to the majority of scholars, if a woman performs her visit according to Islam, that is, if she does not interfere with men, does not make noise and observes the hijab, her visit is also sunnah. Because she, like men, needs to take a lesson. The hadiths prohibiting women from visiting were revealed in the early days of Islam. That is, the Prophet said these things when it was forbidden for everyone, including men.</p> <p>Abdullah bin Abi Melike says: One day, Hazrat Aisha returned from a visit to the cemetery. Thereupon, he asked her, "O mother of the believers, where do you come from?" </p> <p>-Aisha: I came from visiting the grave of my brother Abdurrahman. </p> <p>Didn't the Prophet (pbuh) forbid visiting graves? </p> <p>-Yes, he banned him. Then he released him. </p> <p> Again, the Prophet (pbuh) passed by a woman crying over her son's grave and said:< “Fear Allah and be patient,” he said. But He did not forbid him. There are many similar hadiths. .................. IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR A WOMAN TO VISIT GRAVES? First, let us take a look at the hadiths on this subject: According to the narration of Abu Hurayrah, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “Visit the graves, for it reminds you of the Hereafter.”1 According to the narration of Ibn Mas’ud, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said: “I forbade you from visiting graves. Visit them from now on, for it undoubtedly despises the worldly life and reminds you of the Hereafter.”2 In the early years of Islam, the Prophet (pbuh) prohibited visiting graves. Because at that time, people had not yet completely freed themselves from the customs of the Pre-Islamic Period and had not been able to get rid of some of their old habits. They were engaging in un-Islamic behaviors and behaviors such as speaking inappropriately in the cemetery, shouting and shouting, and boasting about their famous relatives who had died. This issue is expressed in a hadith narrated by Nasai as follows: “Now whoever wishes to visit the graves should do so, but do not speak foul language.” However, as people adapted to Islamic rules and etiquette over time, such concerns disappeared on their own. Thereupon, the Prophet lifted the ban and permitted grave visits, and even encouraged them on the grounds that they “reduce worldly greed, break excessive attachment, and remind people of death and the hereafter.” As for whether or not it is permissible for women to visit graves, there are hadiths that prohibit this issue and even prove that it is forbidden. For example, according to the narration of Abu Hurairah, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) cursed women who visited graves.3 In the explanation of this hadith, the following explanations draw our attention: When women mostly go to visit graves, they shout and scream, tear their clothes, beat their faces and eyes, violate their husbands' rights, do not comply with Islamic hijab, and even go there adorned themselves. Because of these negative behaviors, they were subjected to the curse of our Prophet (pbuh) that they would be kept away from Divine mercy. Some Shafi'i, Maliki and Hanafi scholars, who brought the hadith whose interpretation we have given above as evidence, have reached the conclusion that it is forbidden for women to visit graves. In addition, according to most Hanafi scholars and some Maliki and Hanbali scholars, it is permissible for women to visit graves. The prohibition of women from visiting graves in the hadith was at a time when visiting graves was not permitted. The permission given later includes not only men but also women. Hanafi scholars also present the following hadith narrated by Abdullah ibn Abu Mulayka as evidence for this issue: “One day, Aisha (ra) was returning from the cemetery. I asked her, ‘O mother of the believers! Where do you come from?’ She said, ‘I am coming from visiting the grave of my brother Abdurrahman.’ I asked, ‘Didn’t the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) forbid visiting graves?’ She said, ‘Yes, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) forbade visiting graves, but he ordered it later.’”4 Hadith commentators draw attention to the following points from these hadiths: The permission given by the hadith is for women who go out veiled, think about the hereafter, take a lesson from those lying in the graves, and refrain from shouting, beating their faces, tearing their collars and speaking badly. The prohibition imposed is also specific to women who engage in the aforementioned inappropriate behaviors. As a result, it can be said that: Women, especially young people, can visit graves on the condition that they observe the hijab and are accompanied by elderly women such as their mothers and aunts and men who are their relatives. Such a precaution is more important in large settlements. In fact, while going to graves and trying to earn rewards, it will be inevitable to encounter sin and some unwanted situations. In any case, women do not always repeat these visits. It is possible and more beautiful to send the prayers that they will give to their deceased relatives by reciting them in their own homes. If the deceased have faith, spiritual gifts reach their souls no matter where they are in the world. The distance is the same whether it is close or far. 1 Ibn Majah, Janaiz: 47. 2 Ibn Majah, Janaiz: 47. 3 Ibn Majah, Janaiz: 49. 4 Sunan Ibn Majah Translation and Commentary, 4: 439. ......................................... Question: I recently read a hadith stating that women who visited graves were cursed by the Prophet (pbuh). My question is whether such a thing happened. Also, I would be glad if you could inform me about whether something should be read at graves and whether the Quran should be read after the deceased. Also, whether forgiveness should be asked for the deceased and whether good deeds should be done for his benefit. Answer: 1. Our Prophet (pbuh) lived for about 23 years, conveying the message of Islam, practicing it in a community, and at the same time taking measures to accustom people to/adapt them to Islam, which is a great revolution. Of course, he was also a human being, and everything he said and did - although legitimate - was not behavior that was binding on everyone and that all believers had to follow. The classification of his behaviors in terms of bindingness goes back to the time of the Companions. We have also discussed this issue in one of our books (Islam's Light in the Issues of the Day, 1 ff.). In the question above, a statement of his regarding women's visits to graves is quoted. As in this example, it is not uncommon for more than one hadith to be narrated on the same subject that seems to contradict each other. In this case, those who are competent and expert conduct an examination and either determine that some of the hadiths are not authentic (they do not belong to the Prophet in the form narrated) or they make interpretations and explanations that eliminate the contradiction in various ways. Here, for the sake of a practice, let us quote the main hadiths narrated on the subject of visiting graves and which have entered reliable sources: a) I had forbidden you to visit graves, but Muhammad was given permission to visit his mother's grave, so now you also visit the graves, because this will remind you of the hereafter. (Tirmidhi) b) Ibn Abi Mulayke narrates: One day, Hz. û’isha came from the cemetery and I asked her: - O mother of the believers! Where do you come from? - I am coming from the grave of my brother Abdurrahman. - Didn't the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) forbid visiting graves? - Yes, he had forbidden visiting graves, but then he gave permission. (Sunan al-Asram). c) The Messenger of Allah cursed women who constantly visit graves (whose occupation is to visit graves). (Ibn Majah, Tirmidhi). d) Hz. Aisha asks her beloved husband, the Prophet: - What should I say when I visit the graves, O Messenger of Allah? - Say: "Peace be upon the believing inhabitants of these places! If Allah wishes, we will join you. I ask Allah for your and our well-being (forgiveness and goodness)! (Bukhari, Muslim). e) Hz. Fatima used to visit the grave of her uncle Hamza every Friday, pray there, worship her Lord and pray for her uncle, and cry. (Hakim) There are other narrations related to the subject that somehow repeat and support the above. Some of these hadiths have been criticized for not having sound narrations. The contradiction between the sound ones has been resolved by saying, "First it was forbidden for this reason, then it was allowed for that reason." Although there is a hadith of cursing women about visiting graves, there are also sound narrations about the visits of our ancestors such as Hz. Fatima and Hz. U'isha. In contrast to these, the hadith of cursing is about "those who go too far in visiting, neglect other duties, it is not general" It has been interpreted as follows. As a result, it is legitimate for women and men to visit graves in normal amounts; there have even been those like Ibn Hazm who said, "Visiting a grave at least once in a lifetime is obligatory" (Şevkânî, Neylü'l-evtâr, V, 117-120). The main purpose of visiting graves should be to take a lesson, to remember death and the hereafter. It is also legitimate to greet the dead, to pray for them, and to perform various acts of worship so that the rewards may be theirs. It is not permissible to pray in a cemetery, especially facing the grave, or to ask for anything from the dead person, regardless of who they are. Apart from these, I have written about the things to do and not to do in the first volume of my book mentioned above under the title "When Sending Off the Eternal Traveler". This long article was also published by the Diyanet Foundation as a small book. Hayrettin KARAMAN ............................ IS IT PERMISSIBLE FOR WOMEN TO VISIT GRAVES? Visiting graves is sunnah. Once a week, at least, on religious holidays It is visited on Thursday, Friday or Saturday. Friday is more rewarding. At the end of (Shir'at-ul-islam), it is said, Visiting the grave is sunnah. The visitor takes a lesson by thinking that the dead body has decayed. Hazrat-i Osman would cry a lot when passing by the grave and his beard would get wet. The dead body also benefits from the prayers said. The Messenger of Allah would visit the graves of his relatives and Companions. After the greeting and prayer, one should sit facing the grave with one's back to the qibla. It is the custom of Christians to rub one's hands and face on the grave and kiss the soil. It is stated in a hadith, "When a person goes to the grave of someone he knows and greets him, he recognizes him and responds to his greeting." Ahmad ibni Hanbel says, "When passing by the cemetery, Ihlas, two Servants The reward for reading the a'udhu and the Fatiha should be given to the dead. The reward goes to them.) It is stated in a hadith reported by Enes bin Malik: (When the âyet-el-kursi is read and its reward is sent to the dead, Allahu ta'âlâ conveys it to all the dead.) It is stated in (Hazânet-ür-rivayât): (It is also permissible to go to distant places to visit the scholars who were visited while they were alive, after their death. There is no difference between the visits of Prophets, Awliya' and Scholars in terms of benefiting from them. There is only a difference between their degrees.) Although it is permissible for women to visit, it is better for them not to visit the graves of anyone other than the Messenger of Allah. Although it is permissible to visit while they are in a state of impurity and janabah, it is also permissible to visit while they are in a state of janabah and janabah. It is sunnah to have ablution. It is declared in a hadith-i sharif, (When a believer’s grave is visited and said, Allahumme inni es-elu-ke bi-hakki Muhammadin wa âli Muhammadin en lâ-tu'azzibe hazelmeyyit, the torment of the dead person is averted.) It is declared, (A person who visits the grave of his parents or one of them every Friday is forgiven.) It is only permissible to kiss the soil of his parents’ graves. It is stated in the book (Kifaya), when a person said to the Messenger of Allah, “I swore to kiss the threshold of the gate of Paradise, what should I do?” he said, “Kiss your mother’s foot!” When he said, “I don’t have a mother or father,” he said, (Kiss their graves! If you don’t know where their graves are, draw two lines and intend them as their graves and kiss these lines. You will have fulfilled your oath.) He said. It is better not to go to distant countries to visit the graves of great people, but to visit them when you go for another business. However, it is a good deed to visit our Prophet (PBUH). A person who visits the Prophets and Saints benefits from their blessed souls. His heart is purified as much as his love and devotion to them. If someone commits sins in the tombs, for example, if naked women come, he should not abandon the visit, and if he cannot prevent them, his heart should hate them. In fact, it is necessary to go to the funeral of a believer where there are women, and where songs, hymns and speeches are sung. It is haram for women to visit the graves of their relatives and Saints if they are sad, cry, shout, or mix with men and cause mischief. Such women are cursed. It is forbidden for elderly women to visit the graves of their relatives and Saints without mixing with men. Although it is permissible, such a visit to young girls is also disliked. The same applies to women attending funerals. It is stated in Cila-ul-kulub: A person who comes to the cemetery should say, standing, (As-salāmu aleykum, ya Ahl al-dār-il kām al-mu'minīn! Inna inshā'Allahu an qaribin bikum lahikūn). Then, he should recite the Basmala and eleven Ikhlas and one Fātiha. Then, he should recite the prayer, (Allahumme rabbel-ecsādilbāliyeh, vel-izāmin nahire-tilletī harecet mineddunya wa hiye bika muminetun, edhil aleyhā revhan min indike wa salāmen minnī). When he comes to the grave, he should approach the dead person from the right [the qibla of the grave] and from his feet. He should salute. Standing, squatting or sitting, he reads the beginning and end of the Surah al-Baqara, the Surah Yasin, the Surah Tabarake, the Surah al-Takasur, the Surah al-Ikhlas and the Surah al-Fatiha and presents it to the deceased. Warning: While informing about performing the hajj on behalf of someone else, our scholars state that it is permissible to present the reward of fard or voluntary worships such as prayer, fasting, alms, reading the Quran, making dhikr, performing tawaf, performing hajj, umra, visiting the graves of the Prophets and Saints, and shrouding the deceased, as well as charities and good deeds, to the souls of others. The person who performs the worship and their souls are also given rewards. For this reason, the Quran should be read at the graveside or somewhere else and the reward should be presented to the deceased. and he should pray for them immediately. Because mercy and blessings descend to the place where the Quran is read. The prayer made there is accepted. When it is read next to the grave, mercy and blessings fill the grave. According to the Hanafi school of thought, if a person gives the reward of voluntary fasting, prayer, alms, or reading to someone else, whether dead or alive, the reward goes to them as well. There are those who say that when the reward of obligatory acts is given as a gift, it goes away. The rewards are not distributed to the dead. It is given to each of them in full. According to the Maliki and Shafi'i schools, acts of worship that are performed only with the body, such as reading, are not given as gifts. Prayers are made through them. It is stated in the Book of Fiqh Alel-Mazâhib-il-Erbe'a, (Visiting the grave to learn a lesson from the dead and to think about the afterlife is a sunnah for men. Hanafi and Maliki In their madhhabs, visiting on Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays is considered a sunnah. In the Shafi'i madhhab, it is a sunnah from the afternoon of Thursday until sunrise on Saturday. The person who visits must read the Quran al-karim for the deceased and pray for him. These will benefit the deceased. When entering the cemetery, it is sunnah to say, (As-salāmu aleykum ya Ahl al-Dār al-Mu'minīn! Inna inshā'Allahu an karībin bikum lahīkūn). Every grave, near or far, is visited. It is sunnah to go to a distant place to visit the pious and saintly ones. Visiting the blessed grave of the Messenger of Allah is one of the most valuable acts of worship. It is also permissible for old women to visit while veiled. When it causes discord and corruption, it is also haram for old women to visit. While visiting, it is not permissible to circulate around the grave, kiss the stone or soil, or ask for something from the dead.) The saints are asked to intercede and be a means for Allah to grant it. .................................... How is a grave visited? Question: How is a grave visited? Can a woman also visit? ANSWER: It is sunnah to visit the grave to remember death, take a lesson from the dead, and think about the afterlife. It reminds oneself that one will fall into the same situation. One does not think evil towards anyone. One tries to live as a good Muslim. In the Hanafi Madhhab, it is sunnah to visit graves on Thursdays, Fridays, and Saturdays. In the Shafi'i Madhhab, it is sunnah to visit from the afternoon of Thursday until sunrise on Saturday. The visitor should read the Quran for the dead, It is necessary to pray for him. These are very beneficial for the dead. It is sunnah to say, (Peace be upon you, O Ahl al-Darril Qamil-Muminin! Inna Allahu an Qaribin bikum lahikun) when entering the cemetery. It is stated in a hadith: (When visiting the grave of a believer, if you say, Allahumma inni as-eluke-bi-hürmeti Muhammad, peace be upon him, en la tuazzibe hazelmeyyit, the torment of that dead person will be lifted until the Day of Judgment.) [Etfal-ul Muslimin] It is also stated in a hadith: (The sins of a person who visits the graves of his parents on Fridays will be forgiven and he will have paid their rights.) [Tirmidhi] It is recommended to go to distant places to visit the saints and to visit their graves with the intention of receiving blessings, that is, to benefit from them. Visiting the blessed grave of the Messenger of Allah is the most important act of worship. It is one of the most valuable. It is stated in the hadith: (My intercession is obligatory for those who visit my grave.) [Tabarani, Bezzar] It is not permissible to circumambulate around the grave or kiss the grave while visiting. In Hindiyya, it is stated that it is permissible to kiss the graves of parents. It is also permissible to kiss the tombs of saints or prophets, who are more valuable than parents. Saints are asked to intercede and to be a means for Allah to grant it. The hadith (May Allah curse women who visit graves) refers to women who visit graves in order to renew their weeping, and this is one of the customs of the age of ignorance. The hadith (I had forbidden you to visit graves; visit them from now on; for it reminds you of the hereafter) shows that women can also visit graves. It is permissible for women to visit graves occasionally, while veiled, without causing fitnah. (Tahtawi) Imam-i a'zam says: According to what Abdullah ibni 'Omar reported, the person who visits the blessed grave turns his back to the Qibla and his face towards the grave. Then, he says, (Peace be upon you, O Prophet, and mercy be upon you, and blessings be upon you). It is sunnah to turn towards the blessed grave and have the Qibla at the back. (Musnad) During the visit, the right hand is placed over the left hand, as in the prayer. (Rükneddin Abu Bakr Muhammad Kirmani) During the visit of the grave, one should stand facing the grave and leave the Qibla behind. This is done in every visit to the grave. (Maraq al-felah) When visiting the grave, it is recommended to leave the Qibla behind, sit facing the dead person and greet them. One should not touch the grave with one's hand or face, or kiss it. (Ihya) It is better to leave the Qibla behind and stand at their feet. (Redd-ul-mukhtar) The Messenger of Allah used to visit the Baqi cemetery and pray standing next to the grave. (M. Nasihat) Visiting while standing is better than visiting while sitting. (Ibn Hajar-i Mekki) It is good to stand at the foot of the grave. It is also permissible to stand at the head. (S.Ebediy) http://www.dinımızslam.com/detay.asp?Aid=1692 ................................. Is it permissible for women to visit graves? Can women visit graves? Did any of the female companions visit graves? Answer: In general, visiting graves is recommended for men and permissible for women. It is recommended to visit the graves of pious people, mothers, fathers and close relatives. It is possible and permissible for women to visit graves when there is no fear of fitnah such as shouting, tearing out one's hair and excessive respect for graves. Because the Prophet advised patience to a woman who was crying at the grave of her child. (Bukhari, Muslim) On the other hand, it is narrated that Hz. Aisha also visited the grave of her brother Abdurrahman b. Abi Bakr. (Tirmidhi) The Prophet forbade visiting graves for a while when belief in fate had not yet taken root and the habits of the age of ignorance continued, but he later permitted it. The following is stated in the hadith: "I forbade you from visiting graves. Now you may visit the graves." (Muslim, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad b. Hanbel) The hadiths stating that the Prophet cursed women who visited graves frequently (Tirmidhi, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah) belong to the period when visiting was prohibited. Tirmidhi has clearly stated this (Tirmidhi). Hazrat Aisha and Ibn Abdulbarr are of this opinion. According to the sound opinion of the Hanafis, it is permissible for women to visit graves, provided that they do not do extremes such as tearing out their hair or renewing tears. Because the permission in the hadiths also includes women. (Tirmidhi, Ibn Abidin, Raddu'l-Mukhtar) (Encyclopedia of Islamic Jurisprudence) ...................... THE ISSUE OF WOMEN'S VISITING GRAVES First of all, there is no verse in the Quran regarding whether or not to visit graves. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) Our Prophet (saw) also forbade visiting graves at the beginning of Islam. Because people were not yet able to clearly distinguish the boundaries of "monotheism" and "shirk". A person who visited a grave could think of it as a divine power and ask for something from it, instead of asking Allah for forgiveness for it (making istighfar). He could think that it could relieve his troubles and fulfill his wishes. Later, when the believers understood faith and shirk well, our Prophet (saw) said: "I had forbidden you to visit graves. Now visit them." Because it reminds you of the Hereafter." (Burhânuddin al-Jabari, Rusûhu'l-ahbâr 142 (From Musnad al-Imam Shafi'i, Muslim and Tirmidhi. Tirmidhi says it is hasan-sahih)) It also seemed that the following was meant to be said: a) The grave is visited in order to remember the Hereafter. When the believers come to the point of thinking about the Hereafter by visiting the grave, there is no need to prohibit them from visiting the graves. Or; previously, visiting the grave used to remind you of other things and you were prohibited. Now it reminds you of the Hereafter, so you can visit it. The Messenger of Allah (saw) himself visited the grave of his mother, wept and made those who were with him weep and said, "I asked permission from my Lord to ask forgiveness for her, but I could not. I asked permission to visit her grave, but I was granted permission. You too should visit the graves. Because, it reminds us of death.” (Ja'bari, op. cit. (Muslim, Abu Dawud, Nasai, Ibn Majah, Ibn Hibban, Bayhaqi K.)) “May Allah curse the women who constantly visit graves.” (Jabari, op. cit. 143 (Hasan-sahih from Tirmidhi)) There is no entry for “habitually” in the narration of Ibn Abbas. (Ja'bari, op. cit. 144 (From Abu Dawud, Ibn Hibban Ahmad and Mustadrak)) 4- “Ibn Abi Mulayka says, one day Aisha (our mother) was coming from the graveyard. I asked. “O mother of the believers, where are you coming from?” She said. “From visiting the grave of my brother Abdurrahman.” I asked. “Didn’t the Messenger of Allah forbid visiting graves?” "Yes, he had forbidden it, but then he ordered it to be visited," he replied. (Ja'bari, ibid. 145 (Mustadrak -sahih- and from Ibn Majah)) These are the well-known and famous hadiths on the subject. As it can be seen, it is difficult to evaluate all of these hadiths together and derive a single meaning without hesitation. Most of the Islamic scholars; visiting graves was first forbidden for everyone, then it was permitted, but (with hadith number three) the prohibition continued for women. "Curse" expresses prohibition. Therefore, they are of the opinion that visiting graves is forbidden for women in any case. (See Hafiz Abu Bakr al-Hazimī, al-I'tibar 100; Ja'bari, ibid. 144; Ahmad al-Banna al-Fathur-Rahmanī VNI/162-163) In response to the question of why it is forbidden for women, he said, "Because they cry and shout, They call, they show impatience, they replied. (The places mentioned) We can add to this that women are more prone to be fooled by superstitions, they do not pay much attention to the line between faith and polytheism, and they fall into many dangerous heresies during grave visits. These scholars also say that (the first hadith) allows grave visits for everyone, men and women, while (the third hadith) forbids them for women. It is not known which of these hadiths was narrated first. For example, if we knew that the one prohibiting women (the third hadith) was the first and the other was later, we could conclude that the later permission lifted (abolished) the previous prohibition and say that women are also free to visit. But we do not know this. Therefore, we should act with caution. This is that visiting is forbidden for women. According to some scholars; previously, visiting graves was forbidden. Then (with the first hadith) it was allowed (generally) without any distinction between men and women. Therefore, visiting graves is also free for women (permissible). The (fourth) hadith of Hz. Aisha also shows this. In this case, the (third) hadith cursing women who visit graves would have been narrated before the (first) hadith granting permission. This is the opinion of most Hanafi scholars (see Ahined al-Banna, ibid.). We would like to add the following -in a humble manner-: Visiting graves was previously forbidden, then it was permitted (with the first hadith). Neither the prohibition nor the permission make any distinction between men and women, in other words, they are general. In this case, the hadith of prohibition would have been abrogated by the hadith of permission. If we accept the hadith cursing women who visit graves as having been narrated later, the abrogation would have been repeated and the hadith of permission, which abrogates the prohibition, would have been abrogated, which is not very nice. It is not possible for us to consider this as an exception or an exception for women from the hadith of permission. Because they were not narrated as a continuation of each other. Therefore, permission should also be valid for women. Some, like Qurtubi, have said that the curse is only specific to women who visit frequently, because they violate the rights of their husbands, etc., by looking at the exaggeration pattern (zawwârat) in the "hadith of curse" (Ahmad al-Banna, ibid. VNI/160-161), but since the narration of Ibn Abbas that we have referred to is not exaggerated, this explanation does not seem very convincing. However, where there is polytheism and bid'ah behavior, shouting and screaming, visiting becomes haram. But this is also the case for men. In this case, it is possible to combine the two views and say the following: Permission is valid for everyone, men and women. However, the benefits that will arise from women's visits to graves are generally much greater than the harms that will arise. Therefore, it is prudent for women not to visit graves. However, women who are knowledgeable, have the consciousness to distinguish the boundary between monotheism and polytheism, who do not seek help from mortals through grave visits, but are intelligent enough to take a lesson and advice from this visiting graves under certain conditions may be beneficial for them. In fact, these conditions -as we have mentioned before- also apply to men. So, what makes visiting forbidden and objectionable is not being a woman, but not being able to comply with these conditions. However, since this non-compliance is generally seen more in women, they should have been specifically mentioned. (For this subject, see also Davudoğlu, Muslim commentary V/258 ff.; Elmalılı IX/6046 ff.) http://islamiansiklopedi.blogspot.com/2011/04/kadinlarin-kabir-ziyareti-konusu.html VISIT TO GRAVES In general, visiting graves is recommended for men and permissible for women. Visiting the graves of pious people, mothers, fathers and close relatives is considered recommended. It is possible and permissible for women to visit graves when there is no fear of fitnah such as shouting, tearing out one’s hair and excessive respect for graves. Because the Prophet advised patience to a woman who was crying at the grave of her child and did not prevent her from visiting him (Bukhari, Janaiz, 7, Ahkam, ll; Muslim, Janaiz, 15). On the other hand, it is narrated that Hz. Aisha also visited the grave of her brother Abdurrahman b. Abi Bakr (Tirmidhi, Janaiz, 61). The Prophet forbade visiting graves for a while when belief in fate had not yet taken root and the habits of the age of ignorance continued, but he later permitted it. The hadith states: "I forbade you from visiting graves. "Now you can visit the graves" (Muslim, Janaiz, - 106, Edahi, 37; Abu Dawud, Janaiz 77, Ashribe, 7; Tirmidhi, Janaiz, 7; Nasaî, Janaiz, 100; Ibn Majah, Janaiz, 47; Ahmed b. Hanbel, I, 147, 452, III, 38, 63, 237, 250, V, 35, 355, 357). The hadiths stating that the Prophet cursed women who visited graves a lot (Tirmidhi, Salat, 21; Janaiz, 61; Nasaî, Janaiz, 104; Ibn Majah, Janaiz, 49) belong to the period when visiting was prohibited. Tirmidhi clearly stated this (Tirmidhi, Janaiz, 60). Hz. Aisha and Ibn Abdilberr are of this opinion. According to the sound view of the Hanafis, it is permissible for women to visit graves, provided that they do not engage in excessive acts such as tearing out their hair or renewing their tears. Because the permission in the Hadiths includes women as well (Tirmidhi, Janaiz 60, 61; Ibn Abidin, Raddul-Mukhtar, Istanbul 1984, II, 242). It is seen that visiting graves was also done in the course of history to ask for help from the dead and even to worship them. This was the reason why the Prophet forbade visiting graves at the beginning of Islam. Jews and Christians used to worship the graves of people they considered saints. During the Age of Ignorance, people prostrated themselves at graves and worshipped idols. Idolatry began with respect and reverence for the statues of great people, and eventually this respect turned into worshipping idols. The aim of the Islamic religion is to establish the creed of monotheism. It was to establish in the hearts (knowing Allah as the sole creator and effective and worshipping only Him). For this reason, the Prophet (pbuh) had previously forbidden visiting graves, which he considered dangerous. However, after the belief in monotheism had settled in the hearts and was well understood by the Muslims, permission was granted to visit graves. Because there are benefits in visiting graves for both the living and the dead. During the expedition to Mecca, the Messenger of Allah (pbuh) visited the grave of his mother Amina and cried, making those around him cry as well, and Muslims were also allowed to visit graves (Ibn Majah, Janaiz 48; Nasaf, Janaiz; 101; Muslim, Janaiz, 36; Abu Dawud, Janaiz, 77). This permission and even the encouragement of visiting graves is proven by famous narrations (Ibn Majah, Janaiz, 47; Tirmidhi, Janaiz, 60). Benefits of Visiting Graves a) It reminds people of death and the hereafter and enables them to take lessons for the hereafter (Muslim, Janaiz, 108; Tirmidhi, Janaiz, 59; Ibn Majah, Janaiz, 47-48; Ahmad b. Hanbel, Musnad, I, 145). b) It directs people towards asceticism and piety. It prevents excessive worldly ambition and committing sins. It directs people towards doing good deeds (Ibn Majah, Janaiz, 47). c) Visiting the graves of righteous people, especially the grave of the Prophet Muhammad, provides relief to the souls and helps to develop sublime feelings. It is recommended to travel to visit the graves of the Prophet Muhammad and the saintly servants of Allah. It is stated in a hadith: "Whoever visits me after my death, it is as if he visited me while I was alive." (Mansur Ali (Nasif, et-Tâc, el-Câmiu'l-Usûl, II, 190). d) Visit helps strengthen the ties of people with their past, religious culture and history. </p> </div> <div class="clearfix"></div> </div><!-- End post-inner --> </article><!-- End article.post --> <div class="activate-post-stats page-visits-post" data-id="3313"></div> <div class="share-tags page-content"> <div class="share-inside-warp"> <ul> <li> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F" target="_blank"> <span class="icon_i"> <span class="icon_square" icon_size="20" span_bg="#3b5997" span_hover="#666"> <i i_color="#FFF" class="social_icon-facebook"></i> </span> </span> </a> <a href="https://www.facebook.com/sharer.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F" target="_blank" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">Facebook</a> </li> <li> <a href="http://twitter.com/share?text=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E&url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F" target="_blank"> <span class="icon_i"> <span class="icon_square" icon_size="20" span_bg="#00baf0" span_hover="#666"> <i i_color="#FFF" class="social_icon-twitter"></i> </span> </span> </a> <a target="_blank" href="http://twitter.com/share?text=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E&url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">Twitter</a> </li> <li> <a href="https://www.tumblr.com/share/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F&name=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E" target="_blank"> <span class="icon_i"> <span class="icon_square" icon_size="20" span_bg="#44546b" span_hover="#666"> <i i_color="#FFF" class="social_icon-tumblr"></i> </span> </span> </a> <a href="https://www.tumblr.com/share/link?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F&name=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E" target="_blank" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">Tumblr</a> </li> <li> <a target="_blank" href="https://pinterest.com/pin/create/button/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F&media=https://hikmetkapisi.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/mezartas.jpg&description=KADININ KABİR ZİYARETİ CAİZ MİDİR?"> <span class="icon_i"> <span class="icon_square" icon_size="20" span_bg="#c7151a" span_hover="#666"> <i i_color="#FFF" class="icon-pinterest"></i> </span> </span> </a> <a target="_blank" href="https://pinterest.com/pin/create/button/?url=https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F&media=https://hikmetkapisi.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/06/mezartas.jpg&description=KADININ KABİR ZİYARETİ CAİZ MİDİR?" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">Pinterest</a> </li> <li> <a target="_blank" href="https://api.whatsapp.com/send?text=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E - https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F"> <span class="icon_i"> <span class="icon_square" icon_size="20" span_bg="#25D366" span_hover="#666"> <i i_color="#FFF" class="fa-brands fa-whatsapp"></i> </span> </span> </a> <a href="https://api.whatsapp.com/send?text=%3Ctrp-post-container+data-trp-post-id%3D%273313%27%3EKADININ+KAB%C4%B0R+Z%C4%B0YARET%C4%B0+CA%C4%B0Z+M%C4%B0D%C4%B0R%3F%3C%2Ftrp-post-container%3E - https%3A%2F%2Fhikmetkapisi.com%2Fen%2Fkadinin-kabir-ziyareti-caiz-midir%2F" target="_blank" data-no-translation="" data-trp-gettext="">WhatsApp</a> </li> <li> <a target="_blank" onclick="popup = window.open( Email
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