What is the wisdom behind the Prophet's many wives and his multiple marriages?
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My teacher, peace be upon you... my question is this. Why did our Prophet marry more than one person and what was the reason and wisdom behind these marriages? I would appreciate it if you could enlighten me. Respectfully.
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And peace be upon you, may Allah have mercy on you, my brother Ismet…
Because this topic is a hot topic, I'm sharing the answer given to a brother who asked a question verbatim. God willing, it will be helpful... Let me emphasize that our Prophet (peace be upon him) never married with the intention of marrying today. There's a wisdom in all of this...
Answer: This is a frequently asked question today that confuses some Muslims. Why didn't he settle for one wife? Did his multiple marriages stem from his prioritizing his own desires—in good faith? Questions like these are also related to this topic.
First and foremost, let us state that our Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) considered all his marriages with a multitude of benefits and wisdom in mind. While we will discuss the reasons for his multiple marriages in more detail later, there are a few points we must first address:
Although our Prophet was 25 years old, in his prime, and had never been married before, he married Khadijah (may Allah be pleased with her), who was 15 years older than him and had already been married. All of his children, except Abraham, were also from Khadijah, and their marriage lasted 25 years, during which time he did not remarry. How could marrying someone 15 years older than him and a widow have anything to do with desire?
After Khadijah's death, he married Sawdah bint Zam'ah, whose husband had died during the migration to Abyssinia and who was older than the Prophet. After three years of marriage, Sawdah passed away. Consequently, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) remained monogamous until he was 54 years old, even though they were both older wives and widows.
All of his wives, except our mother Hazrat Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), were previously married.
After this preliminary information, let us state that there was considerable wisdom in the Prophet's (peace be upon him) polygamy. We can categorize these under five headings: Education and Instruction, Legislative Aspect, Social Wisdom, Political Wisdom, and Compassion.
Topics Mentioned
Education and Training
Islam has specific provisions specific to women. His marriage to Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) is a significant example of meeting this educational need. He frequently held lessons with women and answered their questions. Indeed, Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) preferred Aisha's view on legal matters concerning women.[1] Aisha, with her exceptional knowledge of the Quran's indicative meanings, recitations, and the reasons for its revelation, was unparalleled in her understanding. Having narrated over 2,200 hadiths, she became one of the seven companions known as the "muksirun," who narrated the most hadiths. It is through Aisha, our mother, that we learn many details about the Prophet's domestic life and the private affairs of women.
Legislative Aspect
Some of the Prophet's marriages were aimed at directly implementing the decrees established by God Almighty and overthrowing the superstitious customs of the pre-Islamic period of ignorance. For example, his marriage to our mother, Zaynab bint Jahsh (may Allah be pleased with her), was based on this wisdom. To dispel the Arab superstitious belief that "an adopted child is like a biological child, and therefore, the wife of an adopted child is like a daughter-in-law," he married Zaynab, whom he had divorced from Zayd (may Allah be pleased with him), upon God's command. This practical decree destroyed the belief that "adopted child = biological child." You can click here to read our article about the Prophet's marriage to Zaynab.
Social Wisdom
The companions of the Prophet, the noble companions, naturally desired to further their relationship with him and establish kinship ties. Therefore, they either wanted to marry their daughters to the Prophet or to marry the Prophet's daughters. The marriages of Abu Bakr and Umar (may Allah be pleased with them) to the Prophet, and Uthman's marriage to the Prophet's daughter, are examples of this wisdom.
Political Wisdom
Many of the Prophet's marriages had political purposes, and they yielded significant results. Here are a few examples:
a. Juwayriyyah bint Harith (may Allah be pleased with him)
Juwayriyyah bint Harith (may Allah be pleased with her) was the daughter of the chief of the Banu Mustaliq tribe. She had been captured in battle and told the Prophet that captivity was difficult for her. The Prophet proposed to her, and she accepted.[2] Following this incident, the Companions released dozens of families from the same tribe who had been captured. It was considered impolite for members of the Prophet's wife's tribe to remain captive. As can be seen, this marriage not only served a political purpose with the Banu Mustaliq tribe, but also freed hundreds of people from captivity. Most importantly, the entire tribe embraced Islam and became Muslims.
b. Safiyya bint Huyayy (may Allah be pleased with her)
Our mother, Safiyya bint Huyay (may Allah be pleased with her), was the daughter of the leader of the Banu Qurayza tribe and her family was among the prominent Jews. She herself was extremely hostile to Islam. During the Battle of Khaybar, she and many others were taken captive. Because she was the daughter of the leader of the community, the Companions wanted to hand her over to the Messenger of Allah. The Prophet gave her the choice of marrying him if she converted to Islam, or leaving her free if she did not. Safiyya, who chose to marry, continued her life as a remarkably beautiful Muslim. Externally, because she was the daughter of a prominent Jewish person, the hostility of the Jews towards Muslims diminished, and this allowed the Islamic State to expand its borders more easily and to a wider area.[3]
c. Umm Habiba (radiyallahu anha)
Umm Habiba (may Allah be pleased with her) was the daughter of Abu Sufyan, a fierce enemy of Islam. When her husband passed away in Abyssinia, she was left alone there. Saddened by her situation, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sent a letter to the Negus, the King of Abyssinia, expressing his desire to marry Umm Habiba. When the Negus conveyed this to Umm Habiba, she was filled with great joy.[4] Because if she returned to Mecca as a widow, her father would either force her to disbelieve or torture her. However, with this marriage, such a thing became impossible. When news of this marriage reached Abu Sufyan, he did not react seriously; on the contrary, he was pleased. Thanks to this marriage, Abu Sufyan did not show as much hostility towards Muslims as he had before.[5]
d. Mariya (may Allah be pleased with her)
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) sent letters of proclamation to surrounding countries. One of these was Muqawqis, the leader of Egypt. Muqawqis welcomed the letter and sent the Prophet some gifts along with two female slaves. On the way, they were informed about Islam, and they also became Muslims. Mariya was one of them. When they reached Medina, the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) took her in, strengthening relations with Egypt. So much so that, in the war that broke out between the Byzantines living in Egypt and the Muslims, the Egyptians did not aid the Byzantines and remained neutral.
e. Maymunah bint Harith (may Allah be pleased with him)
The Prophet's marriage to Maymunah bint Harith (may Allah be pleased with him) took place a year after the Treaty of Hudaybiyyah. When the Prophet and the Muslims went to Mecca to perform the Tawaf, the Prophet's uncle, Abbas, proposed to him that he marry Maymunah. Maymunah was Abbas's (may Allah be pleased with him) sister-in-law and had authorized the marriage. The Prophet accepted this proposal and married her. This led to a softening of the Meccans' feelings, and they concluded that the Prophet still held a friendly disposition towards them. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was around sixty when he married.
Mercy
Our Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) was an extremely gentle-hearted person, striving to help people as much as he could and giving away whatever he had when the time came. This immense compassion was reflected in some of the marriages he performed:
a. Sawdah bint Zam'a (may Allah be pleased with her)
Sawdah bint Zam'ah (may Allah be pleased with her) was one of the first Muslims. Her husband died after the migration to Abyssinia, leaving her orphaned. She was older than the Prophet. Although she had family in Mecca, they were polytheists and would have been forced to renounce their faith upon her return. The Prophet ended her loneliness by marrying her and taking her under his protection.
b. Zeynab bint Huzeyme (may Allah be pleased with her)
Ubaydah ibn Harith, the husband of Zaynab bint Khuzaymah (may Allah be pleased with her), was martyred in the Battle of Badr, leaving him a widow. Our blessed mother, who was 60 years old, was taken under the protection of the Prophet. In fact, she passed away two years after their marriage.
c. Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her)
Our mother, Umm Salamah (may Allah be pleased with her), was one of the first Muslims to migrate to Abyssinia. Her husband was martyred in the Battle of Uhud, leaving her a widow. Abu Bakr (may Allah be pleased with him) initially offered to relieve her loneliness, but she refused. Then Umar (may Allah be pleased with him) offered to marry her, but she refused him. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) then made the request, and he accepted. Thus, Umm Salamah's children did not feel fatherless, and she herself became a protected person.
Result
In short, although the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) married many times, there was wisdom and benefit in each marriage. He either sought to train female teachers who would be better educators for female Muslims, or he implemented the laws established by God, or he pursued social and political interests, or he supported widows who had lost their husbands in war and were in need of help and protection.
The fact that he married someone 15 years older than him and had already been married when he was only 25 years old, that he lived a monogamous life until he was 55, and that all of his marriages, except for Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her), were to widows and elderly people, show us that all these marriages were not motivated by egoism. Anyone who claims otherwise is far removed from reason, wisdom, and nature. (Quote)
[1] See the article on Dia Hazrat Aisha.
[2] Muhammad Ali al-Sabûnî, Shubahât and Abâtîl Khawla Teaddûdi Zawjati'r-Rasûl (Peace be upon him), 1980, p. 26
[3] Muhammed Ali es-Sâbûnî, ibid., 1980, p. 29.
[4] Muhammed Ali es-Sâbûnî, ibid., 1980, p. 31.
[5] Abu Abdillah al-Qurtubi, al-Jami' li Ahkam al-Quran, Dâru'l-Kütubi'l-Misriyya, Edition: 2, 18/58.